I never react to you but to you-plus-me; or to be more accurate, it is I-plus-you reacting to you-plus-me.

”I” can never influence ”you” because you have already influenced me; that is, in the very process of meeting, by the very process of meeting, we both become something different.

It begins even before we meet, in the anticipation of meeting…

Every movement we make is made up of a thousand reflex arcs and the organization of those arcs began before our birth.

— Mary Parker Follett